Dear Parents, Don’t fight in front of your children you don’t know what they go through when you fight.

“Husbands, Love your wives well! Your children are noticing how you treat her. You are teaching your sons how they should treat a Women and you are teaching your daughters what they should expect from Men.”

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Fighting is not a private matter between a husband and a wife that should be ignored. Fighting and domestic violence can lead to the destruction of a family, which is already so fragile in the current environment. Parents never think that their one small feud or disagreement can lead to a bigger problem for the child.
While fighting parents never think of anything they just keep on abusing each other or in some cases women are abused. When children see their parents fighting constantly they start hating them or feel insecure. Sometimes they even feel that their parents don’t care about them.
When parents fight on a regular basis then children’s feel uncomfortable with them. Constant feud may cause the disturbance in their lives. Kids who witness their parents arguing a lot at home may struggle in social situations and have trouble making friends. Just another reason to take your conflicts to another room.

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Children who see their parents arguing or shouting resort to at least
one of the following:

They remain completely quite, failing to understand how to react?

They develop a feeling of insecurity

They feel scared of the loud dialogues that parents exchange

They tend to get aggressive and loud in their temperament

They stop enjoying their daily routine, with their friends and in school.

At times, they hold themselves responsible for the fights

The impact on their mind and their personality is intense and long lasting.
Sometimes our negative behaviour forms a part of their personality as well.
They feel emotionally threatened and can show signs of depression,anxiety, aggression, hostility.
“Arguing isn’t communication, its noise.” —Tony Gaskins
  • A research indicates that it is not the number of times parents fight that affects the children, it is the extent that parents fight that affects the children. Healthy and respectful arguments are bound to happen and are in fact good for your child. But because parents end up quarrelling nastily, calling names, dragging other family members, quoting past incidents etc. and makeup in silent solitude,
    the child remembers only the fight, the nasty words and bad mouthing. So don’t you feel it is better when our children don’t see us sorting out things then they don’t see us fighting also? Well, it is essential for the healthy growth of our children.
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  • The below steps can help:
    Try not to argue in front of the children
    If that is always not possible, then we should maintain our dignity
    and respect for each other.
    Never speak badly and rudely in front of your child as he will learn all this from you only.
    Don’t make them a part of your argument; never involve them in any of your differences as they might feel stuck on whose side to take and what to speak to the other parent.
    Pay attention to your child and his well being keeping your ego at bay.
    Never shout at each other while fighting.
    Never insult your spouse in front of your child.
  • If you happen to fight in front of your child, make sure you also patch up in front of him. This will reassure your child that you have sorted the problems and are one again. Parenting is not a minor, insignificant matter, but a tremendously important, time-consuming task for which there is, justifiably, the promise of great reward. It is hoped that more and more parents will educatethemselves about how children develop, take note of your children’s unique personalities and abilities, and try to find the best way to rear them accordingly.

    “Children are gifts. They are not ours for the breaking. They are ours for the making.”
    ― Dan Pearce

“Dads. It’s time to show our sons how to properly treat a woman. It’s time to show our daughters how a girl should expect to be treated. It’s time to show forgiveness and compassion. It’s time to show our children empathy. It’s time to break social norms and teach a healthier way of life! It’s time to teach good gender roles and to ditch the unnecessary ones. Does it really matter if your son likes the colour pink? Is it going to hurt anybody? Do you not see the damage it inflicts to tell a boy that there is something wrong with him because he likes a certain colour? Do we not see the damage we do in labelling our girls “tomboys” or our boys “feminine” just because they have their own likes and opinions on things? Things that really don’t matter?”
― Dan Pearce,

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16 thoughts on “Dear Parents, Don’t fight in front of your children you don’t know what they go through when you fight.

  1. My husband and I have only had a few arguments in all the years we have been married and would NEVER do so in front of our children. That is probably one of the reasons our chilren (all grown) want to find relationships like they have witnessed in their own home. Love, communication, trust, respect, honesty, affection, support, and so much more 🙂 Hugs…Janie

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  2. This is an enlightening post! Yes, I agree with all of the points you raised. As a girl still in her teenage years, I hate it when my parents fight or argue. I get worried but I’ve come to realize that they’re still humans and fighting or arguing doesn’t mean they don’t love each other.

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  3. Very true. Children most definitely learn from our behaviour. I think sometimes we don’t realised how much of an impact things can have on them….fighting in front of them should never happen.

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  4. I think conflict resolution is a difficult thing to learn especially without positive role models…and of course vital to maintaining a healthy marriage. Many adults I know (including myself) never learned healthy conflict resolution skills and struggle in their professional and personal lives more than they should. Wonderful and informative piece.

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