To me: Feminism means equal rights of men and women.

“Feminism isn’t about making women stronger. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength.”

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   According to me every women should be a feminist because feminism doesn’t believe in the superiority of men and women but in equality.

        Even though its 21st century women are still oppressed not only in India but in entire world .Men try to dominate women in all possible ways. Everybody talks about equal rights of men and women and everybody gives long speeches about women’s rights but unfortunately nobody practice it. Everyone talks about respecting a women but nobody respects a women.I feel so distressed about the position of women in this century too that it breaks my heart from inside. Today women are treated as a source of income.

     Even educated men do have their own egos and insecurities regarding women. I’ve seen men who in front of the world pretend to give equal rights to women but inside they treat women as a doormat. Be it corporate sector, industrial sector, entertainment sector, etc.  There is no equality between the two genders.

 “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of oppressor.”

 Comment your views on Feminism and share your experiences.

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The Tardy Women

Method and punctuality are so little natural to man that where they exist they are commonly the effect of education or discipline.
-W. B. Clulow
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Rebecca Hathway was a CEO of a reputed software company of Philadelphia. She was very smart business women. She was beautiful and intelligent. She had all the good qualities that a businesswoman should possess except one she was very unpunctual not with everyone but with her employees. She attended all the meeting on time but whenever it comes to her employees she suddenly became unpunctual. Everyone talked behind her back that she’s so punctual with others but why not with her own employees but nobody dared to ask her this question.

The days passed and she became more successful. One day she was sitting with a bunch of friends in a hotel. They were having their lunch. One of her friends asked her you treat your employees very well and kindly but whenever they come to meet you or you have any meeting set with them you attend that meeting very late why? When her friend asked this question everyone was quiet and stared at Rebecca. Rebecca said I’m their boss and I have some standards. I’m above them that’s why to show my greatness and my higher ranking I keep them waiting. Everyone was shocked by her answer. The friend who had asked the question quickly said that doesn’t matter Rebecca higher ranking, high standards all these things doesn’t matter true business women is one who treat everyone equally and the one who is very punctual with everyone. Punctual and successful people become the role models and worthy personalities of their society and country. After hearing her friends speech Rebecca got up and left the hotel quickly.

“Punctuality is the soul of business.”
-Thomas Chandler Haliburton

She sat in her car and drove home. After reaching home she went to her room and started crying. Rebbeca what happened dear? asked her mother politely. Nothing replied Rebbeca in a low voice. Honey, please open the door her mother said quickly. Rebbeca got up and opened the door as soon as her mother came in Rebbeca hugged her and cried out loud. Her mother asked anxiously “baby please tell me what happened?” Rebbeca explained the entire incident and asked her mother “am I really like that mom?” Her mother said my dear daughter I’ll tell you the truth. Yes, you are like that only and you have to change your behaviour. If you want to inspire someone you have to be best in everything. Everything is possible if you try.Everything is metaphysical impossible until it is done.” Being on time for meetings is a phase of self-discipline and an evidence of self-respect. Punctuality is a chivalrous compliment the intelligent person pays to his colleague. Arriving late is a way of saying that your own time is more precious than the time of the person who waited for you. If you keep anyone waiting that means you are insulting that person. after hearing her mother’s advice Rebecca started treating everyone equally and attended every meeting on time.

Punctuality is not a duty, but is also a part of good manners; it is favourable to fortune, reputation, influence and usefulness; a little attention and energy will form the habit so as to make it easy and delightful.
-Charles Simmons

The Pain Within

Sometimes, being hurt too many times doesn’t make you stronger, it destroys who you were, who you wanted to be and makes who you are today. -Rafael Prado

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Lucy used to live with her parents and two brothers Edward and Edmund in Middleton. Usually, people say that daughters are close to their fathers. But that’s not the case with Lucy. She was very close to her mother. Her father was very strict and of dominating nature. He was brusque in nature. He never used to talk politely to any of his kids. So the kids used to talk to their mother only. Whenever their dad came home immediately all the children’s would go to their rooms.
Every day their father used to scold them for their small mistakes. He used to speak in a strident voice. All the kids used to dislike their father for his bad behaviour. But they couldn’t do anything. They patiently listen to their father’s lecture. Both the brothers were serene in nature they never back answered their father but Lucy was short tempered. Whenever her father scolded her she used to back answer him. Their mother used to console them whenever they’re hurt.
Even though their father was raspy to them the children still loved him and treated him kindly. Lucy tried to warn her father about his behaviour obliquely. She used to write letters to her father and tell him about his behaviour. One day the father scolded the eldest son Edward for not coming home early. Edward got upset and went to his room and started weeping Lucy went to his room and tried to console him. Edward said I’m tired I can’t live like this now. After completing my education I’ll leave this house and I’ll never come back again. Lucy replied you can’t say that Ed You’ll have to come here to meet mom at least. I know dad’s harsh but we cannot leave mom like this. After that conversation, Lucy went to her room and decided to write a letter to her father. Lucy wrote a letter in which she enunciated that “Dear Dad, I’m writing this letter to inform you that last night you scolded Edward very badly I just want you to be a little kind to all of us. “Please change your behaviour” we are grown up now you can’t treat us like small kids.
Her father read that letter and called Lucy. Lucy was scared. She had no idea how her father would react. She knew that she’ll get scolding too. Lucy went to her father’s room. Her father yelled at her. He said I will not change for anyone if you all don’t like my behaviour you can all leave this house I’ll never ever change for anyone. Lucy’s was heartbroken after hearing that rude speech. She left her father’s room with tears in her eyes. She went to her room and cried out loud. Edward heard her crying he knocked the door and said “Lucy can I come in?” Lucy replied in crying voice “Yes you can”. Edward solaced Lucy and said I told you yesterday only Lucy. We should leave this house after our education. Lucy nodded her head.
Lucy became an Engineer and her brothers became doctors. After few years all the children decided to leave their parents’ house. But they were worried about their mom. So Lucy decided that she’ll take her mom with her. So she went to her mom and asked her mom I’m leaving this house and I’m going to live in Yorkshire and I’m taking you with me. Her mother replied in a low voice “no dear I’ll stay here with your dad. You can move on.” Edward and Edmund went to London. When the children were leaving their parents’ house the entire family burst into tears. Leaving their parents’ house was difficult for them but because of their father’s unkind behaviour, the children left. They visited their parents once in every six months.

The reason for writing this story is many parents are not fit to be parents. The way you treat your children is the way the will treat you. So be kind to your children and don’t scold them all the time. Scolding all the time can break the relationship. Try to be your children’s friend. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t scold your children but not every time.

Yes, a child needs to be caressed. He/she should be stroked gently and lovingly on the head and looked at with affection. Looking at a child warmly and kindly will make him/her happy. However, one should not show excessive affection for children as this will be harmful. Some parents believe that being frank with children is not good from a discipline point of view. This is wrong. Love and leniency can do much that fear and strictness cannot do. If leniency leads to rudeness on the part of children it should be mixed with strictness. That will tell the children that parents are basically kind but can be tough if children show rudeness and bad manners. Over-protection and over-care are undesirable. Let the child grow up as a responsible person. Only provide them guidance.

Life is temporary

Life is uncertain. Anything can happen anytime. And we have to be prepared for everything and anything. Last month one of my classmates expired from then I’m thinking that life is very unpredictable and uncertain. So we need to live this temporary life to the fullest. In order to live a happy life, we need to forgive everyone, laugh uncontrollably, and never regret anything because everything happens for a reason.

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From my classmate’s unexpected death I have realized that in the blink of an eye everything can change. So forgive often and love with all your heart. You may never know when you may have that chance again.

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Tips to live a happy life.

  1. Do the right thing.
  2. get rid of anything that isn’t useful, joyful or beautiful
  3. However good or bad the situation is it will change. No matter how you feel get up, dress up and show up.
  4. Be happy always.
  5. Help others and forgive quickly.

I WISH I WAS A KID

Sometimes I wish was a kid because kids live in their own world. If anyone scolds them they feel bad for a certain period of time and then they forget everything. Kids never think about what will happen tomorrow. They live in present. They never worry about future. As an adult, we constantly think about our future and sometimes thinking about future makes us sad or worried.kids1

As an adult, we live in a constant pressure and tension which makes our lives perturbed. Nobody judge kids no matter how harsh they behave how they walk or talk. Nobody hates kids or even sometimes somebody hates them they don’t care about it.
Kids live their life freely and happily without worrying about anything. Nobody betrays them. The only betrayal they face is from a friend who fights with them and plays with another friend. Kids don’t look at anybody as their enemy. Kids make friends easily. They play in the sun all day during holidays without caring about sunburn. Simple things make them laugh. Complicated things make them cry. I wish I could laugh so hard like a kid.kid68

Life seems happy to kids. They neither think about failure nor do they think about success. Kids never think about impressing anyone. If kids are sad they go to their mother and feels everything is okay.

Nobody breaks their heart,
And if anyone breaks it,
They cry out loud in mommy’s arm.
They fall asleep on daddy’s lap,
They feel protected when they’re with their dad.

Kids forgive and forget easily. Their life is very easy and simple. No complication, no headache, kids live their lives in full joy and faith.

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I want to go back to no sadness, no fear, no pain, no gain, just laughter and happiness because I wanna live happily ever after. I want to be carefree…..

Share your thoughts and your childhood memories in the comment section. I would love to hear your story.

“A tongue has no bones but it can break a heart.”

The tongue is small soft flesh yet it is capable of breaking the strongest bonds and destroying the most powerful relationship. –Yasir Qadhi
The heart and the tongue can be the most beautiful part of you. And also they can be the worst part of you. With good heart and tongue, you could win people over. With bad heart and tongue, you could turn away people from you. Have patience when someone utters bad words or argue with you don’t answer them remain silent. When you speak don’t speak with a high voice. Speak with moderate voice. Respect people. When you are speaking with high voice remember that you are disrespecting the listener.
And remember one more thing don’t be so sweet that people will swallow you and don’t be so bitter, people will spit you out. Be balanced don’t give too much don’t take too much.

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It’s easy to open our mouth and say whatever comes to our mind. But its very hard to keep our mouth shut. We use our tongue to backbite or to put people down, to dishonour people. Sometimes we use our tongue to remind people the favour we have done for them. But do you think it’s a good thing to do?
Do not indulge in vulgar, rude or indecent speech. Don’t use abusive language don’t splutter expletives (bad language). Our speech should be noble and pure. It’s a trend nowadays to use bad words. Last week I went to shopping with my mum. As I was walking I heard a boy using bad words. I looked back he was a young boy with another young boy and he was spluttering expletives. He was using the F word in each and every sentence. That was the very disgusting thing for both of us (me & my mom). We literally had to change our route because of that boy. I just don’t understand why people unnecessarily use such words.

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I was wondering if someone uses bad words and at that very moment, he dies. His/her last word would be a bad word. Who would like to die like that? Nobody thinks this before using bad words. Do people really have to throw the F word everywhere to express themselves? Bad words are cool nowadays. Its habit of some people even if they want to say a simple sentence like its too cold today or the weather is too cold today they use the F-word like its damn **** cold today.

If you speak straight your deed will become good and pure. If you speak harshly you will face more damage especially in the period of misunderstanding and confusion. Therefore no matter how angry we may be or how worked up the best thing to do is guard your tongue.

Share your views and experience in the comment section below…. 🙂

 

Anger is a brief madness.

Men in rage strike those that wish them best. – William Shakespeare

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Anger is like fire. When we put fuel in the fire it spreads and destroys the entire area. Just like that when we get angry we destroy our peace of mind and our own life. Anger is something which can lead to many evils and tragedies. Every man feels these emotions in him according to conditions and circumstances. Thus, he likes and dislikes, becomes afraid or enraged in certain situations. Each emotion offers some profit to man if used correctly. But equally, there is the grave danger of provoking harm if they are used incorrectly. Harm will be inflicted not only on others but also will backfire on the inflictor.

Anger, like fear, is a psychological condition, and cause of evil and aggressive actions. One who does not control his anger loses control of his mind. The enraged man cannot control his actions and harms and hurts himself and others. Well, I have noticed that people have become a rage. I mean even if we ask a shopkeeper few questions they become a rage and reply rudely. I wonder why people have become a rage. What do you think please share your views in the comment section below.

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Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. – Buddha

I know we all get angry sometimes on small things and sometimes on bigger matters. When we get angry we never think of the consequences of anger. In angry temperament, we use foul language and hurt our loved ones. Sometimes we hurt our parents also because of our anger.

Anger is your enemy conquer it and does not allow it to conquer you. –Imam Ali(RA)

Reasons for becoming Rage:

1. Improper food habits.
2. Hectic lifestyle.
3. Influence of media & social media.
4. Excessive intake of Alcohol.
5. Frequent intake of medicines.

Ways to deal with a bad temper:

1. Keeping silent:
“If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent.” This is because in most cases, the angry person loses self-control and could utter words or curses, which would destroy his home, or words of slander which would bring him the enmity and hatred of others. So, in short, keeping silent is the solution which helps one to avoid all that.

2. Not moving:
“If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down, so his anger will go away; if it does not go away, let him lie down.” it prevents the angry person from going out of control, because he could strike out and injure someone, or even kill – as we will find out shortly – or he could destroy possessions and so on. Sitting down makes it less likely that he will become overexcited, and lying down makes it even. One who is standing is in a position to strike and destroy, while the one who is sitting is less likely to do that, and the one who is lying down can do neither. Less likely that he will do something crazy or harmful.

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3. Knowing the bad effects of anger:

The negative effects of anger are many; in short, they cause damage to one’s own self and to others. The angry person may utter words of slander and obscenity, he may attack others (physically) in an uncontrolled manner, even to the point of killing.
Anger could lead to less than killing, such as wounding and breaking bones. If the one who caused the anger runs away, the angry person turns his anger in on himself, so he may tear his clothes, or strike his cheeks, or have a fit, or fall unconscious, or he may break dishes and plates, or break furniture.

In the worst cases, anger results in social disasters and the breaking of family ties, i.e., divorce. Ask many of those who divorced their wives, and they will tell you: it was in a moment of anger. This divorce results in misery for the children, regret and frustration, a hard and difficult life, all as a result of anger. The damage to health that results from anger can only be described by doctors, such as thrombosis, high blood pressure, tachycardia (abnormally rapid heartbeat) and hyperventilation (rapid, shallow breathing), which can lead to fatal heart attacks, diabetes, etc.
4. The angry person should think about himself during moments of anger:

If the angry person could see himself in the mirror when he is angry, he would hate himself and the way he looks. If he could see the way he changes, and the way his body and limbs shake, how his eyes glare and how out of control and crazy his behaviour is, he would despise himself and be revolted by his own appearance.

“Anger is the only thing you should put off until tomorrow. Stop and think before you speak your words cut deeper than any sword ever will.”

Diary of an Introvert.

{Chapter 8: A friend is a new door to a different world}

[This is the fictional story of a girl named Layla. The story focuses on the agonizing life of Layla. What struggles she had gone through as an introvert? What problems she had to face for being an introvert in an extroverted world is illustrated here. ]

The language of friendship is not words, but rather meanings. It is intelligence above language.     -Henry David Thoreau

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            Zara was busy with her drama club girls all semester. So I had decided that I won’t give her importance. We both have been avoiding each other. I was enjoying Abigail’s company. And she was enjoying mine too. We both used to go to college together and we both used to have so much fun. One day there was Science quiz competition in the college. Mrs Morgan our Science teacher asked us i.e. me and Abigail to participate in that competition. We said yes without any hesitation as we both loved science.

“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.”    – Muhammad Ali

           We both used to study hard. After college, we used to sit in the library and study for hours and after going home Abigail used to come to my place to study. We were working hard to win that competition. After a month of hard work finally, quiz day came. Mrs Morgan came to our class and said: “girls are you ready for the competition?” We both replied in a low voice Yes ma’am. Mrs Morgan said, “Calm down girls I know you’re little bit nervous its ok don’t be nervous just focus on the questions and think properly and answer”. We both were timorous we nodded our head. Mrs Morgan said follow me, girls, we have to go to the auditorium the competition will be held there. We both followed her.

“A loyal friend laughs at your jokes when they’re not so good, and sympathizes with your problems when they’re not so bad.”   – Arnold H. Glasgow

                The principal came forward and announced that whichever team wins will get two free passes of Disney land and a trophy. Everybody clapped and sat in their respective places. The competitions started. We won the three rounds. The fourth and the last round was the most difficult but we managed to answer all the questions. The competition was over the judges asked for fifteen minutes to decide the winner. Our heart was beating loudly and we both were damn worried and frightened. Abigail and I were holding hands due to nervousness. Zara and Ira entered the auditorium with their drama club friends. They looked at us and waved. We both were nervous so we didn’t wave back. And finally, that moment came when the anchor announced the winner. And the winner is Layla and Abigail. Everyone clapped and our classmates were screaming our names loudly. L-A-Y-L-A…… A-B-I-G-A-I-L…. I looked at Zara she seemed unhappy but was pretending to be happy. We both went down the stage everyone came and started congratulating us. Zara and Ira came and congratulated us with a smiling face but we could sense that they are not happy.

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“In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”    – Martin Luther King, Jr.

       We were very happy not because we got the passes but we won the competition and made Mrs Morgan proud. We went home happily. We had two days to get ready for the Disney land trip. We started packing our bags. After two days we went to Disney land with Mrs Morgan and we were joined by my mother. We had so much fun on that trip. We shared our pictures on social media. When we came back from our trip we found that Zara was trying to connect with us but we were totally ignoring her. Our entire classmates welcomed us with a smile and we both talked about our trip that entire week.

True friends are the people who brighten your smile every time you’re with them.      -Julia VeRost

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             Zara was disappointed by my behaviour. I was sitting in the living room; I took my cell phone and saw Zara’s text ‘are you angry with me? I was angry with her but I didn’t want to tell her so I replied: “no I’m not”. She replied back then why aren’t you talking to me? I read that message and didn’t reply. After reading that text I felt miserable and I went to my room and started reading a book but I wasn’t able to concentrate I was lost in my own thoughts. When you give too much importance to a person and that person betrays you, you feel like it is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend who betrayed you. It is better to have an enemy who honestly says they hate you.

 “Don’t fear the enemy that attacks you; fear the fake friend that hugs you.”