Men in rage strike those that wish them best. – William Shakespeare
Anger is like fire. When we put fuel in the fire it spreads and destroys the entire area. Just like that when we get angry we destroy our peace of mind and our own life. Anger is something which can lead to many evils and tragedies. Every man feels these emotions in him according to conditions and circumstances. Thus, he likes and dislikes, becomes afraid or enraged in certain situations. Each emotion offers some profit to man if used correctly. But equally, there is the grave danger of provoking harm if they are used incorrectly. Harm will be inflicted not only on others but also will backfire on the inflictor.
Anger, like fear, is a psychological condition, and cause of evil and aggressive actions. One who does not control his anger loses control of his mind. The enraged man cannot control his actions and harms and hurts himself and others. Well, I have noticed that people have become a rage. I mean even if we ask a shopkeeper few questions they become a rage and reply rudely. I wonder why people have become a rage. What do you think please share your views in the comment section below.
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. – Buddha
I know we all get angry sometimes on small things and sometimes on bigger matters. When we get angry we never think of the consequences of anger. In angry temperament, we use foul language and hurt our loved ones. Sometimes we hurt our parents also because of our anger.
Anger is your enemy conquer it and does not allow it to conquer you. –Imam Ali(RA)
Reasons for becoming Rage:
1. Improper food habits.
2. Hectic lifestyle.
3. Influence of media & social media.
4. Excessive intake of Alcohol.
5. Frequent intake of medicines.
Ways to deal with a bad temper:
1. Keeping silent:
“If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent.” This is because in most cases, the angry person loses self-control and could utter words or curses, which would destroy his home, or words of slander which would bring him the enmity and hatred of others. So, in short, keeping silent is the solution which helps one to avoid all that.
2. Not moving:
“If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down, so his anger will go away; if it does not go away, let him lie down.” it prevents the angry person from going out of control, because he could strike out and injure someone, or even kill – as we will find out shortly – or he could destroy possessions and so on. Sitting down makes it less likely that he will become overexcited, and lying down makes it even. One who is standing is in a position to strike and destroy, while the one who is sitting is less likely to do that, and the one who is lying down can do neither. Less likely that he will do something crazy or harmful.
3. Knowing the bad effects of anger:
The negative effects of anger are many; in short, they cause damage to one’s own self and to others. The angry person may utter words of slander and obscenity, he may attack others (physically) in an uncontrolled manner, even to the point of killing.
Anger could lead to less than killing, such as wounding and breaking bones. If the one who caused the anger runs away, the angry person turns his anger in on himself, so he may tear his clothes, or strike his cheeks, or have a fit, or fall unconscious, or he may break dishes and plates, or break furniture.
In the worst cases, anger results in social disasters and the breaking of family ties, i.e., divorce. Ask many of those who divorced their wives, and they will tell you: it was in a moment of anger. This divorce results in misery for the children, regret and frustration, a hard and difficult life, all as a result of anger. The damage to health that results from anger can only be described by doctors, such as thrombosis, high blood pressure, tachycardia (abnormally rapid heartbeat) and hyperventilation (rapid, shallow breathing), which can lead to fatal heart attacks, diabetes, etc.
4. The angry person should think about himself during moments of anger:
If the angry person could see himself in the mirror when he is angry, he would hate himself and the way he looks. If he could see the way he changes, and the way his body and limbs shake, how his eyes glare and how out of control and crazy his behaviour is, he would despise himself and be revolted by his own appearance.
“Anger is the only thing you should put off until tomorrow. Stop and think before you speak your words cut deeper than any sword ever will.”