To me: Feminism means equal rights of men and women.

“Feminism isn’t about making women stronger. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength.”

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   According to me every women should be a feminist because feminism doesn’t believe in the superiority of men and women but in equality.

        Even though its 21st century women are still oppressed not only in India but in entire world .Men try to dominate women in all possible ways. Everybody talks about equal rights of men and women and everybody gives long speeches about women’s rights but unfortunately nobody practice it. Everyone talks about respecting a women but nobody respects a women.I feel so distressed about the position of women in this century too that it breaks my heart from inside. Today women are treated as a source of income.

     Even educated men do have their own egos and insecurities regarding women. I’ve seen men who in front of the world pretend to give equal rights to women but inside they treat women as a doormat. Be it corporate sector, industrial sector, entertainment sector, etc.  There is no equality between the two genders.

 “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of oppressor.”

 Comment your views on Feminism and share your experiences.

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Anger is a brief madness.

Men in rage strike those that wish them best. – William Shakespeare

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Anger is like fire. When we put fuel in the fire it spreads and destroys the entire area. Just like that when we get angry we destroy our peace of mind and our own life. Anger is something which can lead to many evils and tragedies. Every man feels these emotions in him according to conditions and circumstances. Thus, he likes and dislikes, becomes afraid or enraged in certain situations. Each emotion offers some profit to man if used correctly. But equally, there is the grave danger of provoking harm if they are used incorrectly. Harm will be inflicted not only on others but also will backfire on the inflictor.

Anger, like fear, is a psychological condition, and cause of evil and aggressive actions. One who does not control his anger loses control of his mind. The enraged man cannot control his actions and harms and hurts himself and others. Well, I have noticed that people have become a rage. I mean even if we ask a shopkeeper few questions they become a rage and reply rudely. I wonder why people have become a rage. What do you think please share your views in the comment section below.

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Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. – Buddha

I know we all get angry sometimes on small things and sometimes on bigger matters. When we get angry we never think of the consequences of anger. In angry temperament, we use foul language and hurt our loved ones. Sometimes we hurt our parents also because of our anger.

Anger is your enemy conquer it and does not allow it to conquer you. –Imam Ali(RA)

Reasons for becoming Rage:

1. Improper food habits.
2. Hectic lifestyle.
3. Influence of media & social media.
4. Excessive intake of Alcohol.
5. Frequent intake of medicines.

Ways to deal with a bad temper:

1. Keeping silent:
“If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent.” This is because in most cases, the angry person loses self-control and could utter words or curses, which would destroy his home, or words of slander which would bring him the enmity and hatred of others. So, in short, keeping silent is the solution which helps one to avoid all that.

2. Not moving:
“If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down, so his anger will go away; if it does not go away, let him lie down.” it prevents the angry person from going out of control, because he could strike out and injure someone, or even kill – as we will find out shortly – or he could destroy possessions and so on. Sitting down makes it less likely that he will become overexcited, and lying down makes it even. One who is standing is in a position to strike and destroy, while the one who is sitting is less likely to do that, and the one who is lying down can do neither. Less likely that he will do something crazy or harmful.

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3. Knowing the bad effects of anger:

The negative effects of anger are many; in short, they cause damage to one’s own self and to others. The angry person may utter words of slander and obscenity, he may attack others (physically) in an uncontrolled manner, even to the point of killing.
Anger could lead to less than killing, such as wounding and breaking bones. If the one who caused the anger runs away, the angry person turns his anger in on himself, so he may tear his clothes, or strike his cheeks, or have a fit, or fall unconscious, or he may break dishes and plates, or break furniture.

In the worst cases, anger results in social disasters and the breaking of family ties, i.e., divorce. Ask many of those who divorced their wives, and they will tell you: it was in a moment of anger. This divorce results in misery for the children, regret and frustration, a hard and difficult life, all as a result of anger. The damage to health that results from anger can only be described by doctors, such as thrombosis, high blood pressure, tachycardia (abnormally rapid heartbeat) and hyperventilation (rapid, shallow breathing), which can lead to fatal heart attacks, diabetes, etc.
4. The angry person should think about himself during moments of anger:

If the angry person could see himself in the mirror when he is angry, he would hate himself and the way he looks. If he could see the way he changes, and the way his body and limbs shake, how his eyes glare and how out of control and crazy his behaviour is, he would despise himself and be revolted by his own appearance.

“Anger is the only thing you should put off until tomorrow. Stop and think before you speak your words cut deeper than any sword ever will.”

Diary of an Introvert.

{Chapter 8: A friend is a new door to a different world}

[This is the fictional story of a girl named Layla. The story focuses on the agonizing life of Layla. What struggles she had gone through as an introvert? What problems she had to face for being an introvert in an extroverted world is illustrated here. ]

The language of friendship is not words, but rather meanings. It is intelligence above language.     -Henry David Thoreau

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            Zara was busy with her drama club girls all semester. So I had decided that I won’t give her importance. We both have been avoiding each other. I was enjoying Abigail’s company. And she was enjoying mine too. We both used to go to college together and we both used to have so much fun. One day there was Science quiz competition in the college. Mrs Morgan our Science teacher asked us i.e. me and Abigail to participate in that competition. We said yes without any hesitation as we both loved science.

“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.”    – Muhammad Ali

           We both used to study hard. After college, we used to sit in the library and study for hours and after going home Abigail used to come to my place to study. We were working hard to win that competition. After a month of hard work finally, quiz day came. Mrs Morgan came to our class and said: “girls are you ready for the competition?” We both replied in a low voice Yes ma’am. Mrs Morgan said, “Calm down girls I know you’re little bit nervous its ok don’t be nervous just focus on the questions and think properly and answer”. We both were timorous we nodded our head. Mrs Morgan said follow me, girls, we have to go to the auditorium the competition will be held there. We both followed her.

“A loyal friend laughs at your jokes when they’re not so good, and sympathizes with your problems when they’re not so bad.”   – Arnold H. Glasgow

                The principal came forward and announced that whichever team wins will get two free passes of Disney land and a trophy. Everybody clapped and sat in their respective places. The competitions started. We won the three rounds. The fourth and the last round was the most difficult but we managed to answer all the questions. The competition was over the judges asked for fifteen minutes to decide the winner. Our heart was beating loudly and we both were damn worried and frightened. Abigail and I were holding hands due to nervousness. Zara and Ira entered the auditorium with their drama club friends. They looked at us and waved. We both were nervous so we didn’t wave back. And finally, that moment came when the anchor announced the winner. And the winner is Layla and Abigail. Everyone clapped and our classmates were screaming our names loudly. L-A-Y-L-A…… A-B-I-G-A-I-L…. I looked at Zara she seemed unhappy but was pretending to be happy. We both went down the stage everyone came and started congratulating us. Zara and Ira came and congratulated us with a smiling face but we could sense that they are not happy.

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“In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”    – Martin Luther King, Jr.

       We were very happy not because we got the passes but we won the competition and made Mrs Morgan proud. We went home happily. We had two days to get ready for the Disney land trip. We started packing our bags. After two days we went to Disney land with Mrs Morgan and we were joined by my mother. We had so much fun on that trip. We shared our pictures on social media. When we came back from our trip we found that Zara was trying to connect with us but we were totally ignoring her. Our entire classmates welcomed us with a smile and we both talked about our trip that entire week.

True friends are the people who brighten your smile every time you’re with them.      -Julia VeRost

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             Zara was disappointed by my behaviour. I was sitting in the living room; I took my cell phone and saw Zara’s text ‘are you angry with me? I was angry with her but I didn’t want to tell her so I replied: “no I’m not”. She replied back then why aren’t you talking to me? I read that message and didn’t reply. After reading that text I felt miserable and I went to my room and started reading a book but I wasn’t able to concentrate I was lost in my own thoughts. When you give too much importance to a person and that person betrays you, you feel like it is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend who betrayed you. It is better to have an enemy who honestly says they hate you.

 “Don’t fear the enemy that attacks you; fear the fake friend that hugs you.”

 

The Siblings

{Chapter 1 Cute Memories}

[This is the fictional story about two siblings. The story gives a portrait of the relationship between Alex and Bella Grant how they spent their childhood and what amazing things they did together is beautifully illustrated here.]

Our siblings. They resemble us just enough to make all their differences confusing, and no matter what we choose to make of this, we are cast in relation to them our whole lives long. – -Susan Scarf Merrell

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“A SIBLING shares childhood memories and grown-up dreams.”

I came home from work and I saw a lady sitting with my mother in the living room. I was going to my room when she called me “Bella my dear, come here”. I looked at her and went slowly towards her and she hugged me and said: “Oh my dear it’s been ages since I saw you and look at you, you look beautiful”. I smiled at her I was trying to remember her name then suddenly my mom said this is Tess, my friend, you remember her right darling? Oh yes, I said how can I forget her. How are you? I asked her politely and sat down on the sofa that was just next to her. I’m very well my dear. Where is Alex? She asked gushingly you and Alex you both were so cute when you were little oh my goodness I loved seeing you both playing and laughing together. You both used to stay together all the time she said while grabbing a cup coffee. My mom looked at her and said yeah they looked very cute. There was a knock on the door I’ll get it I said to my mom. As soon as I opened the door Alex came running inside and asked me to give water. Tess heard his voice and called him. “Alex my dear come here”, you look handsome my dear. Alex whispered in my ear “who’s she?” I answered quickly she’s Tess mom’s friend I hope you remember her. Oh yeah how can I forget her he said whispering to me.

 

She asked Alex to join but he was in a hurry so he said sorry I have to go but it was nice meeting you. Tess replied quickly nice to meet you too young man. “He’s very shy, “said Tess in a low voice. Yes, he is, answered my mom. Mom and Tess were talking to each other.

Brother and sister, together as friends, ready to face whatever life sends. – Robert Brault

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I was sitting there but I was in my own world. I was thinking about our childhood. Alex and I used to play together when we were about 8-9 years old we never played with other kids. When we used to go to  play outside our house our neighbour used to look at us and they used to say why don’t you guys play with other kids? We used to say we like each other’s company only. I remember the day when I started going to school Alex was about 2 and a half year old he was crying loudly saying I want to go with Bella. “Bella don’t go” “don’t leave me please”. Oh, my gosh seeing him crying I started crying too I was telling daddy to let him come with me he’s crying so much. Daddy said let’s go dear he can’t come with you. Daddy held my hand tightly and took me to school. When I came home from school that day he ran towards me hugged me and said in a cute voice “I missed you very much today”. Just like that day Alex used to cry every day and seeing him crying I also used to cry a lot. He used to tell me don’t leave me alone Bella I miss you very much when you go to school. I don’t have anyone to play with me.
I was thinking all these and Tess said loudly Bye Bella I’m going. I looked at her in astonishment and replied quickly Bye It was nice to meet you after a long time. I had a great time my dear bye take care mom and Tess went towards the door mom opened the door for her and she left happily.

Siblings are the people we practice on, the people who teach us about fairness and cooperation and kindness and caring quite often the hard way. – Pamela Dugdale

 

 

You don’t have to be rich to help someone.

You can have everything you want in life if you just help enough people get what they want in life.”
– Zig Ziglar

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All of us have an opportunity to help someone. All you need to do is help one person without expecting nothing in return. That is Humanitarian. You don’t have to be rich or famous or educated to help someone.
“No one has ever become poor by giving.”
― Anne Frank,

Make Life easy for others. Ask yourself How best I can help? Be happy for others. Try to encourage people in a positive way. Start with your neighbour. The person that lives right next to you. The kid down the block in your neighbourhood. You just do whatever you can to help in any way that you can. Help yourself by helping others.Your actions show what your heart is made of.

“In helping others, we shall help ourselves, for whatever good we give out completes the circle and comes back to us.”
– Flora Edwards

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Experts in psychology confirm that helping others lead to ease stress, where getting involved in assisting others stimulates excretion of Endorphin, a hormone which helps in feeling psychological comfort and excitement.

“As we work to create light for others, we naturally light our own way.”
— Mary Anne Radmacher

Allan Lex, a former manager of “Health Promotion Institute” in the USA, affirmed that helping others assists in easing the intensity of stress, where helping others lessens one’s thinking of his personal worries and problems and by doing so, he feels psychological comfort.
“Strong people don’t put others down… They lift them up.”
― Michael P. Watson

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The researcher pointed out the necessity of availability of three basic terms for helping others to enjoy the positive benefits of offering a hand, assistance should be systematic, offering personal contact between the helper and who asked for help and the latter who asked for help should be from outside the circle of acquaintances, family and friends.

“If you’re not making someone else’s life better, then you’re wasting your time. Your life will become better by making other lives better.”
― Will Smith

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Previous scientific studies showed the importance of tolerance, forgiving others and not to take offence… All those lead to improving the efficiency of the immune system in human and therefore protecting them from different diseases. We can say that any good deed we do may help in improving the mood, raising the immune system level and giving the body an extra dose of immunity against diseases and especially stress.

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I wanna challenge each one of you who are reading this article to help one person. Create one situation that touches someone’s heart.

Diary of An Introvert

{Chapter 7 The road to a friend’s house is never long}

[This is the fictional story of a girl named Layla. The story focuses on the agonizing life of Layla. What struggles she had gone through as an introvert? What problems she had to face for being an introvert in an extroverted world is illustrated here. ]

An honest enemy is better than a best friend who lies.
-Vandi Tanko
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I was sad that best friend betrayed me. So I was not going to college for the past two days. On the third day I was sitting in the living room reading a book then my mom said: “Layla open the door there’s someone at the door”. I went to the door and opened it. I saw Abigail holding a bunch of books in her hands and she said: “Hi Layla, Can I come in?” Oh, I said yes, please. She came inside and sat with me in the living room. She asked me gently “Why are you not coming to college?” After a few seconds of pause, I said I was not well that’s I didn’t come. But she knew the real reason so didn’t say anything. My mom came in and Abigail introduced herself to my mother.” Hello, I’m Abigail Layla’s new friend” She said. Hello dear, I’m Layla’s mom nice to meet you. Mom and Abigail talked for a little while then my mom said You girls chat I’ll bring some coffee and cake for you two.

“The great thing about new friends is that they bring new energy to your soul.”
— Shanna Rodriguez

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Abigail gave me her notes so that I could complete mine. She asked me which book you’re reading? I said Little Women by Luisa Alcott. Oh, she’s an amazing writer I’ve read some of her books she said. We talked about authors and books. My mom came and gave us coffee and walnut cake and cookies. We enjoyed our little feast and after that Abigail went home.
Next morning she came to pick me for college. We both went to college together. We met Zara and Ira in the classroom they were sitting with their drama girls group. They all looked at us and giggled. I felt apoplectic at that very moment and went to my place. Zara came to me and asked me the reason for not coming to college. I said I wasn’t well. She was going to say something but teacher came in abruptly and asked Zara to sit on her place so she went to her place.

A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow. – William Shakespeare

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During the interval, Abigail and I ignored Zara and Ira. After the college, Zara and Ira were busy with their drama club and Abigail and I went to the nearby bookshop. We took some books from there and Abigail asked excitedly can we go to the park and read books there for a while and then we can go home. I wanted to go home but seeing her excitement I said yes let’s go. We went to a coffee shop bought some coffee and snacks for both of us and went to the park. We had our snacks and coffee and read books and we were just walking around. All of a sudden we heard some girls laughing we looked around and saw Zara and Ira with their Drama club group.
“Fake friends are like autumn leaves, they’re scattered everywhere.”

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Zara and Ira were quite jealous to see us having fun. Zara came to us and asked silently “What you both are doing here?” We said we are just hanging around. Ira said you can join us…. Abigail and I were not interested in hanging out with them so we gave an excuse that it’s too late we think we should go home. Zara understood the real reason for leaving but she didn’t say a word. We ran from the park and went home hurriedly.

“A good friend is like a four-leaf clover; hard to find and lucky to have.”
— Irish Proverb

 

Dear Parents, Don’t fight in front of your children you don’t know what they go through when you fight.

“Husbands, Love your wives well! Your children are noticing how you treat her. You are teaching your sons how they should treat a Women and you are teaching your daughters what they should expect from Men.”

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Fighting is not a private matter between a husband and a wife that should be ignored. Fighting and domestic violence can lead to the destruction of a family, which is already so fragile in the current environment. Parents never think that their one small feud or disagreement can lead to a bigger problem for the child.
While fighting parents never think of anything they just keep on abusing each other or in some cases women are abused. When children see their parents fighting constantly they start hating them or feel insecure. Sometimes they even feel that their parents don’t care about them.
When parents fight on a regular basis then children’s feel uncomfortable with them. Constant feud may cause the disturbance in their lives. Kids who witness their parents arguing a lot at home may struggle in social situations and have trouble making friends. Just another reason to take your conflicts to another room.

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  • Children who see their parents arguing or shouting resort to at least one of the following:
  • They remain completely quite, failing to understand how to react?
  • They develop a feeling of insecurity
  • They feel scared of the loud dialogues that parents exchange
  • They tend to get aggressive and loud in their temperament
  • They stop enjoying their daily routine, with their friends and in school.
  • At times, they hold themselves responsible for the fights
  • The impact on their mind and their personality is intense and long lasting
    Sometimes our negative behaviour forms a part of their personality as well.
  • They feel emotionally threatened and can show signs of depression, anxiety, aggression, hostility.
  • Sometiomes they might even hate the concept of marriage.
  • “Arguing isn’t communication, its noise.” —Tony Gaskins

 

A research indicates that it is not the number of times parents fight, the extent that parents fight that affects the children. Healthy and respectful arguments are bound to happen and are in fact good for your child. But because parents end up quarrelling nastily, calling names, dragging other family members, quoting past incidents etc. and makeup in silent solitude, the child remembers only the fight, the nasty words and bad mouthing. So don’t you feel it is better when our children don’t see us sorting out things then they don’t see us fighting also? Well, it is essential for the healthy growth of our children.

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  • The below steps can help:
  • Try not to argue in front of the children
  • If that is always not possible, then we should maintain our dignity and respect for each other.
  • Never speak badly and rudely in front of your child as he will learn all this from you only.
  • Don’t make them a part of your argument; never involve them in any of your differences as they might feel stuck on whose side to take and what to speak to the other parent.
  • Pay attention to your child and his well-being keeping your ego at bay.
  • Never shout at each other while fighting.
  • Never insult your spouse in front of your child.

If you happen to fight in front of your child, make sure you also patch up in front of him. This will reassure your child that you have sorted the problems and are one again. Parenting is not a minor, insignificant matter, but a tremendously important, time-consuming task for which there is, justifiably, the promise of great reward. It is hoped that more and more parents will educate themselves about how children develop, take note of your children’s unique personalities and abilities, and try to find the best way to rear them accordingly.
“Children are gifts. They are not ours for the breaking. They are ours for the making.”
― Dan Pearce
“Dads. It’s time to show our sons how to properly treat a woman. It’s time to show our daughters how a girl should expect to be treated. It’s time to show forgiveness and compassion. It’s time to show our children empathy. It’s time to break social norms and teach a healthier way of life! It’s time to teach good gender roles and to ditch the unnecessary ones. Does it really matter if your son likes the colour pink? Is it going to hurt anybody? Do you not see the damage it inflicts to tell a boy that there is something wrong with him because he likes a certain colour? Do we not see the damage we do in labelling our girls “tomboys” or our boys “feminine” just because they have their own likes and opinions on things? Things that really don’t matter?”
― Dan Pearce,

 

Diary of An Introvert

{Chapter 6 New Memories Ahead…}
[This is the fictional story of a girl named Layla. The story focuses on the agonizing life of Layla. What struggles she had gone through as an introvert? What problems she had to face for being an introvert in an extroverted world is illustrated here. ]

“It’s hard to tell who has your back, from who has it long enough just to stab you in it….”
-Nicole Richie

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We were sitting in English lecture listening to Mrs Katie’s boring stories. She noticed that we all are getting bored so she said: “let’s have some fun”. She asked each student to tell good and bad qualities of anyone from the class. She started from the first row. I was thinking that I’ll tell Zara’s good quality and Ira’s bad quality. After some time my turn came. So I said I like Zara in the class because I think she’s very kind and sweet person. And I don’t like Ira because she is very rude. Zara’s turn was next. I thought Zara will tell my good quality cause we are best friends.
But she said she likes Ira cause she’s her best friend. I was astonished by her answer. My heart was broken all this time I was thinking that she’s my best friend but she’s not really my best friend. I wanted to cry out loud but I had to control my emotion. This session was going on and I was in my own world as I was sad and hurt.

“Its hard to trust someone especially the ones you trust the most were the ones that betrayed you.”

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After a moment Abigail’s answer gave me a sudden shock. She said that she’s not my friend because she’s new but she likes me. She likes my dressing sense and my polite nature. I was shocked to hear that from a person who does not know me but still said good about me and my best friend did not say anything about me in fact instead of choosing me she chose Ira. Mrs Katie listened to everybody’s answers with complete attention. The bell rang and her period was over she smiled and went away.
Zara looked at me but I completely ignored her. In the interval I took my lunch and went to the garden area to eat alone soon I was joined by Abigail. I asked her do you really think I’m polite and good? She said, “Yes, you are”. I looked at her and smiled. We went home together that afternoon.
“To me, the thing that is worse than death is a betrayal. You see, I could conceive death, but I could not conceive betrayal.”

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Next day we came together as well. As soon as we both entered the class Zara started talking to me very calmly as nothing was wrong. I didn’t say anything and went to my place and sat there Abigail followed me. In the second period, Mrs Katie told us that there will be Christmas celebration and those who want to participate in drama can give their names. The entire class participated in drama except me and Abigail. Mrs Katie insisted that we should also join the drama club and have fun. But both of us were not interested.

The entire class left for drama club and I was inconsolable by Zara’s behaviour and I badly wanted to go home. Abigail noticed that I was feeling low so she told me  “let’s go and have lunch at the nearby hotel.” We went to the hotel and without asking me she ordered burgers. We had our lunch and went home together.

“We don’t lose friends, we just realized who the real ones are.”